Kfar Khabad, Israel – 60-Year-Old Becomes First-Time Mom

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    Kfar Khabad 60 year old first time momKfar Khabad, Israel – Forty years of fertility treatments finally give ultra-Orthodox couple their hearts’ desire – a healthy baby boy

    “I’ve waited for a baby for so long, I’m so happy,” a woman who became the proud mother of a firstborn son at the age of 60, said today.

    The woman and her husband, an ultra-Orthodox couple living in the central Israel community of Kfar Khabad, were married over 40 years ago, and have been trying to have a child for nearly four decades.

    The woman underwent numerous fertility treatments, and eight months ago finally became pregnant, but experienced various complications, which Prof. Moshe Hod, head of the High-Risk Pregnancy Unit at the Rabin Medical Center in Petah Tikva, said were typical of her age.

    The woman went into premature labor about three weeks ago. She was hospitalized in an attempt to stop the early delivery, but soon after that doctors had no choice but to deliver the baby, which came into the world in the 34th week of pregnancy and at 4.29lbs.

    “The woman is doing absolutely fine,” said Prof. Hod. “She’s in recovery with her son and she’s euphoric. Naturally, she is going to have to be under observation for a while.”

    At the age of 60 a woman can no longer conceive a child naturally and the process requires an egg donation. The rest of the process is the same as any other in vitro fertilization and once an embryo has been created and deemed viable, it is transferred into the woman’s uterus.

    While technically there is no reason for a healthy woman in her 60s – or even 70s – not to become pregnant, such late pregnancies have sparked an ethical debate within the international medical community, with the two main questions remaining the process’ fairness of the child – who may be orphaned at a young age; and the question of how much can we really interfere with nature.

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    55 COMMENTS

    1. Mazal Tov, As someone who went through a lot of fertility treatments, this is absolutely positively the best news I have heard in a while. Kol Hakavd I wish the Mother and Baby much nachas.

    2. Not that i say my opininian, but i think that halachaly the mother of this child might be two, the egg donor, and the carier the mothers womb. Please somone discuss this issue its quite interesting for me.

      • “WHy did she try so hard? why not just adopt, there are so many children who can use a warm loving home.”

        So many? Don’t you mean so few? With abortions being so easy to get, there are very few children available for adoption. Perhaps some older children with great health problems in lesser developed nations, but not healthy white young infants. I don’t mean to sound like a racist, however in most instances people do frown on interracial adoptions(is this fair to do a child in a religious Jewish home, who might later be the only black or Asian child in his yeshiva?) Jewish racial diversity is increasing, especially in NYC and in Israel, however in many other places Jews who are not white are rare. Many women who don’t have viable eggs still want their child to be genetically related to the husband.

        Since a kohain can’t marry a convert, is there also a special restriction on a cohain’s wife using donor eggs?

        What issues are there for a Jewish woman concerning whose donor eggs to use? Would eggs from a single Jewish woman be preferable? What issues are there for a Jewish woman to use eggs from a married woman who is Jewish, or from a married woman who is not Jewish?

        In cases of sperm donation due to the husband being infertile, would it be preferable to use sperm from a close relative of the husband even if he is married,
        or to use sperm from a single Jewish male?

        This topic is so confusing.

        “Neiss!”

        I would have considered it that if she had a healthy child with her own eggs, however with donor eggs it is not so impossible for a 60 year old woman to have a healthy child. It has happened before.

        • “Neiss”

          I guess I forgot to mention that Sarah had a child at 90 with her own eggs. That was indeed a neiss. I have not heard of any woman in recent times having a child over the age of 70, even with donor eggs.

      • why did you (or have your wife) give birth to children? It’s alot easier to adopt than go through pregnancy and labor. BTW there are not so many normal children read for adoption. Sometimes you can be on the line for that for years. You’re a stupid idiot. Every normal human being knows that your own child is not the same as adopting. And who ever said that she never adopted????? The best things come the hard way. Your kids probably either came every 10 months or you used birth control. Go onto bonei olam’s website and listen to some of the speeches. Maybe that’s gonna help you appreciate your own kids more.

    3. Mazal Tov first of all.
      Its a huge simcha for Klal Yisroel.
      may she and her husband be zoiche to bring up their child letorah chupah umaasim tovim.
      Klal yisroel is a family and we all look out for each other so these “social” issues should not be worthy of mention

    4. Why negatives?

      This poor woman and her husband have been trying for 40 years to have a baby. When the doctors’ and with Hashem’s help she is blessed with one…..
      and some want to cloud the issue and rain on their parade?

      That last paragraph should never have been written. It was clearly done so to turn something beautiful into a negative.

      VIN … Can you delete that last paragraph.

      And, up above, it also lies. It says that a 60-year old woman can not conceive. That is a bold-faced lie. It would have been accurate to say MOST 60-year-olds will not conceive without help, but there are some who have been blessed with late menopause, and can conceive.

      I just get annoyed when reports of beautiful nice things are turned into negative things.

      • While I may not agree with all that is written here, there is nothing so bad that VIN must censor. There are legitimate ethical and moral questions regarding the use of advanced technology to allow older/elderly women to bear children and there is opinion in the medical community going both ways. Rav Moshe Tendler, one of the biggest experts on halacha in this area raises some important concerns as do other gadolim. Please do not stifle legitimate debate or worry about our yinglach reading such abstract scholarly discussions.

        • While I agree with you 100%, there is a time and place for all discussions.

          This particular article was about a certain couple and the happiest moment of their lives. They are likely to search for all articles on their wonderful childbirth.
          Can you imagine the frowns and tears they will read when they see these debates questioning whether they have a right to even have their precious child?

          The place for the debates and and scholarlly discussions is in halachic discussions, or in other forums dedicated to those discussions.
          This is a celebration of this couple’s happy occassion.

          Join me in giving them MAZAL TOV on the birth of their child.

          The original article was written in a tricky way. It started off to tell a “Human Interest” story of this couple’s happiness, but ended up using their happiness as a way of bashing. That last sentence was truly uncalled for.

          Everyone here knows I enjoy a good debate, and do not avoid any issue, as long as it can be debated without hurting people’s feelings and can be done with respect for both sides.

          But, this was not a debate article. This was supposed to be an article of celebration, and I questioned the inclusion of that hurtful conclusion.

          But to end here on a hight note, I pray that our Creator grants this couple with great health and long life, and many, many years to guide this precious neshama into torah, mitzovs and chuppa.

      • I see nothing wrong with the article. Many question the idea of a 60 year old woman having a child. I am sure that the woman involved has expected many to question her decision to have a child at the age of 60. I am not criticizing her for this. Women who are 60 may have very different health histories, financial circumstances, and extended family nearby(or lack of it), so there is no one answer to the question of whether a 60 year old woman should have a child or not. It depends on her specific circumstances.

        • Er… Nope. I personally know TWO women, both 60+ who still ovulate, and both had children AFTER age 60. One gave birth at 61, the other at 63.
          Both babies were healthy. One full term 7lb 6 oz girl, the other 2 weeks early, a boy at 6lb even, and had his bris on his 8th day.

          Both mothers were Lamaze. Both mothers are in excellent health. Neither needed any medical assistance to get pregnant or “special” treatment of any kind prior, during or after childbirth.. The 61 year old was her first pregnancy. The 63 year old her 4th pregnancy, and 3rd child.

          So, Satmar Man is right. Don’t prejudge based upon what your doctors tell you. I delivered both of the above 2 babies. One in 2001, the other in 1998.

          Remember, there are many things which happen in medicine that go without publicity, when the patients are not attention seekers.

        • Er… Nope. I personally know TWO women, both 60+ who still ovulate, and both had children AFTER age 60. One gave birth at 61, the other at 63.
          Both babies were healthy. One full term 7lb 6 oz girl, the other 2 weeks early, a boy at 6lb even, and had his bris on his 8th day.

          Both mothers were Lamaze. Both mothers are in excellent health. Neither needed any medical assistance to get pregnant or “special” treatment of any kind prior, during or after childbirth.. The 61 year old was her first pregnancy. The 63 year old her 4th pregnancy, and 3rd child.

          So, Satmar Man is right. Don’t prejudge based upon what your doctors tell you. I delivered both of the above 2 babies. One in 2001, the other in 1998.

          Remember, there are many things which happen in medicine that go without publicity, when the patients are not attention seekers.

          • Your a doctor who has delivered babies for a 61 y.o. and a 63 y.o.

            And I’m Donald Trump.

            Now that I think of it, while we are both making up stories, why go for Donald Trump. I think I’ll be George Washington today.

            Tomorrow you can be Albert Schweitzer and create a cure for the common cold while I can be Napolean Bonaparte and invade Russia.
            After lunch though. I’ll be having a late breakfast with Julius Ceaser first. He has a salad recipe I’ve been trying to duplicate for years. Centuries, actually.

            • My daughter went to Yeshiva of Flatbush back in the 1970’s. One of her classmates had older parents both over 60 at the time he was conceived. The boy’s mother was 67 when he started First Grade. It hurt the boy a little, because it was harder to make friends, since his parents were so much older than most of us.

              Everyone thought this boy was being raised by grandparents, including the Y of F teachers and staff. We did not talk much about it, because we all “assumed” they were doing the kind thing by raising a child which was the result of a “teen pregnancy” of a relative. But, in private, the father confided in me that the boy was actually theirs, and that they made up the grandparents story for socialization reasons, which at first I did not belive.. Later I found out from the Hebrew principal when the 3 of us were in a private meeting, that he had told me the truth. He was the only Y of F faculty member who knew the truth (though I suspect the registrar had to know)

              But, he did well in school, and seemed healthy and happy. It was the honors class, so he must not have been defective in any intellectual way. So, I guess it does happen.

    5. Women of this age should not be having children…..there are thousands of yassomim crying out for families and these people are spending hundreds of thousands of dollars (probably from goverment subsidized health care programs) to have children beyond an age when it is not healthy for women to bear children. How will she be able to care for the children in their teens when she herself is in her 70s.

    6. Vin, can you please take this news of. A lot of kids have access to internet, they don’t need to know what facilities mens. And for all the comments which what your weirding eggs etc.

      • Could someone please translate this comment into English? I think he’s upset about some adult content in the article, but I can’t see anything there that I’d hesitate to tell a 10-year-old.

      • There is nothing wrong in kids knowing that not everyone has a baby nine months after their wedding. And if a child is given internet access freely, this is the least of the issues they can read about.

    7. They say the baby is healthy. Let the new parents have their day or joy! This judging and bashing only further the hate and suffering in this world. I’m a child of a parent of a mature age, and I am a very happy and healthy adult with a family of my own. I am so happy to have been brought into this beautiful world. Thank you Mom and Dad, and of course God.

    8. Baruch Hashem I just had my first child, anyone that has children can say what a neiss, and what a simcha it is. i am so happy for this woman that she was able to experiene this tremendous joy. May she be zoche to walk him down the chupah and to see Doros Yeshurim U’mivoruchim!!!

    9. MAZAL TOV !!!!
      Its not sooo old our great grand parents (avruhom uvinu) had their @ age 100=90

      p.s. you don’t have 2 reply, I know its……

    10. That’s such wonderful news. If Hashem made modern technology – BH it can be used by frum Yiden too. Over the last years many “miracle” babies have been born. They sure will keep their OLDER parents active and hopefully healthy. Hopefully, they reach a ripe old age. There are no guarantees in life!

    11. Obviously all these insensitive people who are outraged that she should have never had the baby, or that she should of adopted, have never had the nissoin of going through infertility treatment. BH that Hashem helped you have have as many children as you wanted with out the agmas nefesh of thinking you will never hold your own child in your hands. The pain is something that most people BH can not imagine.

    12. Sorry folks, I agree with #17. I B”H have a large family & I was told I would never have children, so I truly understand how this lady feels. However, at 55 I AM EXHAUSTED!! Yes, she’s on a euphoric high right now, but toilet training, teething, wanting mommy to run & play & get down on the floor to build legos (and then getting up!!)…all these things are very hard on a woman of her age. They were hard on me in my 30’s.

      And what happens if, this is a realistic possibility, she is not here by Bar Mitzvah? What happens if Tatteh isn’t here either? What happens to this child then? He’s raised by relatives? Let’s assume the parents raise him to adulthood. How can a couple in their mid-70’s deal with the emotional & physical demands of a teenager? They are 2 generations removed.

      Sorry, I think it’s selfish. Yes, they are parents at last & that’s a beautiful thing, but giving birth is one thing. Raising kids is another. Now go ahead & attack me for daring to speak my mind. Who will be first?

      • Loved this comment. It is truthful and honest. She is very irresponsibble and although it is a beautiful thing,when that poor child grows up without a parent, or both parents, whether its bar mitzvah, chasunah, etc..how will he feel? I totally agree with this..

    13. “Both mothers were Lamaze. Both mothers are in excellent health. Neither needed any medical assistance to get pregnant or “special” treatment of any kind prior, during or after childbirth.. The 61 year old was her first pregnancy. The 63 year old her 4th pregnancy, and 3rd child.”

      Care to provide some proof? If your statement is true, and women over 60 gave birth to healthy children without using donor eggs, there should be many articles on the net about it.

      • I too know of a case like this. Just one. It was a couple in New Jersey. The man is a friend of mine. The woman was 61 when she gave birth. It was close to 23 years ago. She is still alive today, at age 84, and plays with her toddler and infant grand children. Her husband is also still alive but not quite as active as she is any more.

        Most couples who do get pregnant at this age AVOID publicity, for the baby’s sake.

        This one I know, waited until after the baby was born, and moved to another community, in another state, where they posed as a younger couple. He made believe he was 52 instead of 62. She made believe she was 48. They did this so that they could be closer in age to and make friends with other other w parents, so their kids would have friends. They feared that had they stayed in their old town, they would not have been able to befriend the couples who were still having kids.

        They raised their daughter, and most people in their shul think that they are that younger age. They act it.

        Just because you can’t find something on Google, does not mean it is not real.

        When you are protecting your baby, you tell the doctor you want no publicity. Even the hospital was given the younger ages. They paid CASH.

        Yes, this means the public records are wrong and inaccurate. But that is what you do when you want to protect your baby, and have it grow up normal.

    14. This surprised me.

      “1997: Dawn Brooke of Guernsey gave birth to a son by caesarian section on August 20, 1997, at the age of 59. She became pregnant unexpectedly, initially mistaking the symptoms she experienced for cancer, and is the oldest mother currently known to have conceived naturally. It has been speculated that the hormone replacement therapy which Brooke had may have contributed to her ability to ovulate past menopause”

      en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_over_age_50

    15. B’H, and Mazel Tov to these fine & deserving parents. My Tate was 54 when I was born & Mamma was around 39. I was an only child. I am currently 65 and Tate was niftar at 98 & Mamma at 88. I enjoyed every moment of their lives and miss them as much today as when they first passed away. There is something very special growing up with older parents. While I missed some of the things that younger parents do with their children, I benefited from the wisdom, patience and experience that Mamma & Tate had aquired due to being older than most new parents. I am sure that Hashem has blessed these fine people with a very special gift, may they be Blessed with Orichim Yomim so they may pass on their wisdom to their son as well and so they may be Zoche to see his many accomplishments and service to Klal Yisroal & H”KB

    16. What a bunch of bubba meisas.

      These kids were either adopted or the children of unwed family members and the older woman cover by claiming the baby is their’s.

      You’d be amazed how often it happens.

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