NEW YORK (VINnews) — A get-refuser is fighting back against a massive social media campaign that was initiated to bring awareness to the plight of his Agunah and others. Ironically, he claimed a VIN posting with his photo was “bullying”. Bullying is something a get-refuser is accused of.
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On Sunday, VIN published the case of Dovid Wasserman, who has kept his wife chained for the past 7 years. The facts of the case are, that Nechama Wasserman has made it remarkably easy for Dovid to give her a Get. As soon as they were separated, she arranged a very generous custody deal, which saw Dovid get 40% of custody. Besides for that, she is not requesting any child support or alimony. The only thing she has asked for is the right to move on with her life. Yet for 7 years, Dovid has refused to allow her that right. He also refused to ever come to Beis Din. Multiple Siruvim have been issued to this effect.
For this reason, it is ironic when Instagram notified VINnews that an instagram post laying out the facts about Dovid was removed for “bullying and harrassment,” as clearly Dovid is the bully in this scenario.
Below are the documents that were included in the instagram post in question.
What is perhaps even more disturbing in some ways, is that Dovid’s family has allegedly actively supported him these entire 7 years, without showing any evidence of trying to compel him to unchain his wife. In fact, VINnews was told that they went as far as to ask Nechama to pull out of the court process.
The only feeble attempt that was ever allegedly came after 4 years of being separated, when one of the brothers reportedly told Nechama that he was just on the phone with Dovid and asked him to give a Get, but “he yelled at me” and I “yelled at him,” and the conversation ended there.
Dovid resides in his mother’s home in Monsey, New York. No public records indicate that he is currently employed, and is reportedly getting financial support from a family trust fund. His family has paid for lawyers to represent him and continually subvert the divorce process.
According to information obtained by VINnews, no member of the Wasserman family has ever agreed to sit down with a Beis Din to discuss a path forward, despite being called to the table many times.
Dovid’s mother, Rivka Wasserman, is a known and well respected teacher at Bais Rochel in Monsey. It is inconceivable that someone of her supposed stature would sit idly by while her son exhibits such unconscionable behavior, let alone actively support him.
Yet when she was confronted by nechama’s brother and his brother-in-law in 2018 at a Shiur she was giving, she called the police and filed a restraining order that was actually approved for 2 years.
In response to this incident, Mrs. Wasserman testified in court against Nechama, saying that Dovid is a good father and that Nechama alienated the children. Her “proof” that Nechama alienated the children was that she told her story publicly on a podcast, and in addition, she allowed her brother to walk into her Shiur and “scare her”.
Bais Rochel of Monsey has been approached many times and questioned about their continual employment of Mrs. Wasserman, despite her support of Dovid’s behavior. However the school stood behind her every time, always saying that Mrs. Wasserman is a Rebbetzin, and if there’s anything she could actually do to help, they’re sure she would.
Bais Rochel of Monsey can be reached at (845) 352-5000.
In another similar example of Dovid’s family resisting confrontation rather than help Nechama, the same relative of Nechama’s visited a pre-school ran by Dovid’s sister Yocheved Adelman, to make other parents aware that they’re entrusting their children with someone who enables such behavior.
In this case also the police were called.
If the recent outpouring of support for social media campaigns calling for the release of Agunos is any indication, the Jewish community has had enough.
No longer are ordinary community members willing to stand by and watch women chained to their husbands with no hope to move on with their lives.
The Brooklyn Jewish community has put that on display recently by coming out in large numbers and rallying publicly in front of the homes of recalcitrant husbands.
As a result, we have seen at least 2 women receive their Get over the last week.
[ELIZABETH IS FREE! Flatbush Agunah Receives Get As Momentum Builds To Support Trapped Women]
[BREAKING UPDATE: Jeff Hafif Gives Get After 17 Years, More Rallies Planned For Other Get Refusers]
Dovid’s behavior is inexcusable, and should not be tolerated by the community.
The enabling behavior of Dovid’s family is also inexcusable, and should not be tolerated by the community. It is up to Dovid’s family to take control of the situation, or at least come to the table for a discussion.
Dovid’s Parents:
Pinchos Wasserman
Rivky Wasserman
Dovid’s Siblings:
Shaya Wasserman
Shmuly Wasserman
Avi Wasserman
Yocheved Adelman
Sarala Muschel
Chany Barnetsky
Miriam Fruchter
Yanky Wasserman
In 2019, Nechama went on the Halacha Headlines podcast to tell her story publicly. Readers are encouraged to listen to it to learn more.
Wow. Thank you so much yeshiva world for not being afraid to expose these horrible people, and for standing up for what’s right. Please continue and don’t give up as this is what true support is for the plight of agunos. This article with the videos and link to the podcast really tells such a tragic story. Very disappointing on the part of this monsey school that employs his enabling mother, and if I lived in monsey I would be protesting at the school, but since I live out of town I will be calling them by phone.
The grown mother covering her ears like a baby should be ashamed of herself. You can tell she clearly doesn’t want to reach any sort of agreement or settlement, she simply wants to pretend this isn’t happening and just close her eyes as though she is not part of the problem.
I’ve been so impressed with the recent agunah coverage , keep up the good work and keep posting !! We all support!
Thank you so much VIN for bravely sharing the details with us!
I listened to that podcast in 2019.
So horrible! I myself gave my ex wife a Get with such easiness, despite not getting all that I wanted from the Bais Din.
I Daven for the husband, as well, that Hashem grant him the strength to do the right thing!
Thank you, once again, for posting this!
Just wondering where are the Rabbonim? They should speak out. Someone who withholds a get, refusing to appear in front of a Beis Din should possibly be put in cherem, not allowed in shul, do no business with him and people that encourage his behavior.
Anyone in the monsey area should stage daily protests in front of his parents’. A phone drive needs to be organized so as many people as possible let Bais Rochel know the problem .
Having experience with a family member who is currently the status of agunah….Orah only involves themselves after all other avenues have been exhausted. They take their time and are very patient in doing everything possible before publicizing a case. If you go to their website, there are only a handful of names listed there, whereas they are currently working on many more cases than advertised.
We need to all keep up the momentum that this will not be tolerated in our communities any longer.
If this guy is such a צדיק, why would he refuse to come to bes din? And yes, if someone is a siruv and you help him like his mom, you are in essence going against bes din too
Yes,what WOULD those women at the shiur do if it were their daughter? It’s easy to be safe holy and stick to fingers in your ears on someone else’s cheshbon.
Thank you for publishing this article and giving support to a chained woman
Maybe there is another side to this story being buried.
Just maybe. Not a fact.
I see very little here about the most likely reason for his holding out: $$$. That also explains why the family is behind him. Unfortunately, we see many a beis midrash where people come begging for tzedaka to pay off these m’nuvals so their daughters can be free. Follow the money.
People ask such stupid questions ! Listen to the podcast . She said she gave him partial custody and asked for nothing ! His only demand is that she stay married to him
The shul in the video is Mikdash Dovid, located at 2 Hilltop Ln. Why is the mother of the mesariv lavo ledin allowed access to enter the premises to give shiurim?
The shul in the video is Mikdash Dovid, located at 2 Hilltop Ln. Why is the mother of the mesariv lavo ledin allowed access to enter the premises to give shiurim? And why isn’t charges pressed against the 911 caller for lying to police that a person is in her home, when in fact it’s a shul with public access to all?
There are 2 sides to every story and this is just another example of that. Even if Dovid were in the wrong I’m not sure how posting his whole family’s contact information would accomplish anything. Family will always stick up for family even if Dovid is 80% wrong and Nechama is 80% right his mother and his siblings will always take up that 20%.
I now call his mother every night at 4 and 5 and 6 am. Thank you VIN
there are 2 ways that a woman gets freed from her husband.
one is a Get and the other is….
Where’s Epstein?
The funny thing about this article is, that David is bullying nechama, not VIN, so the argument is pretty bad. But nevertheless I hope nechama gets a get quickly
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Wife is offering 40% custody and No child support?
If this is true this man will Burn in hell for eternity
God speaks to the recalcitrant husband in the torah.
The book of Malachi chapter 2 verse 16.
For he who hates his wife should divorce her , says hashem.
God of israel! He covers injustice with his garment , says hashem.
Rashi on the book of Malachi chapter 2 verse 16 .
A man who insists on retaining the wife he hates is concealing his dislike as if covering injustice with his garment.
You should at least divorce her so that she could remarry
Anyone have his moms number?
Social media was convinced that he was being bullied because they , understandably , can’t comprehend the agunah phenomenon . In western culture , a divorce can be one-sided and issued by a wife . Non Jews and secular Jews just can’t wrap their heads around the patriarchal get process and how women succumb to it .
Exhibit A why so many go OTD.
Too bad Aguda supports get refusers as does Flatbush Jewish Community Coalition
0:26 in the second video. That EVIL German laugh tells me that this is not someone sticking up for a bully. It is about revenge.
I don’t know anything about this story, just my personal two cents
When woman hold their children as bargaining chips unfortunately men have to resort to using a get as thier bargaining chip. There are 2 sides to every story and in marital demise cases it’s usually very complex. Not cool to do this unless both sides are heard. Men are usually dealt a rough hand and all sides need to b heard.
Are the Rabbonim Tzadikim that their heart pours out for the Aguna.. Be willing to marry and support a divorcee with children. That cannot conceive any longer. And would take them to Court if they lose favor in her eyes?
Why in the world would you put a picture of his mother, I wonder if someone would be selling pig meat as kosher if vin would put a picture of the mother of the store owner, the fact for many years is, that no one is on the man’s side, as officially he’s in control of the get, and whatever reasonable accommodation he requests he gets coined as a get refuser, when in reality he needs a get just as important as his wife, to remarry,but in today’s woke generation, it’s always the women that’s victim
Full story from his position is needed, I feel like I need to judge from her position and the beis din she paid.
What’s the real reason he refuses to give a get? Why did his wife take him to Court? Why are his family members support him? Does his wife know that if she gets a get and remarries she has more than 80% chance of divorcing again. And cannot return to her first husband…